One Reason Toddlers Throw Temper Tantrums and What You Can Do About It!

06/03/2018

Temper tantrums seem to be a rite of passage for children.  One minute they are babies and the next they are throwing themselves dramatically on the floor in order to be heard, understood, or to simply have a cookie for breakfast.  Luckily for us, there are things parents can do to minimise the tantrums from their children, and the first thing to do is understand why they are throwing them in the first place!

 

1 Reason Toddlers Throw Temper Tantrums

One reason toddlers throw temper tantrums may have a lot to do with their ability, or lack thereof, of communication.  As babies, children learned to communicate through crying, cooing and mimicking noises they heard from people around them.  If it was something serious they needed, such as food or a new nappie, they would cry in order to get our attention.  This worked quite well for them as babies and as a toddler, this behaviour usually would not have been trained out of them.  They have learned that in order to get something they really want, they just have to cry, we will somehow understand what they want and POOF!  What they want unfolds before them.  Unfortunately, parents want this trend to end by the time their child reaches their two’s and three’s,  but if the children aren’t being heard and understood by this time, you can be sure to expect an onslaught of temper tantrums!

Yes, by this time we want them to tell us what they want instead of crying for it.  That being said, what can we do to teach our child or children to talk early?

 

What Can We Do To Teach Our Child To Talk Early?

I have a friend whose son could speak impeccably from a young age.  When I asked him what he did to encourage such behaviour, he said that even though he knew what his son wanted every time he pointed to something or murmured a baby word, he would sit with his son a few extra minutes and say, “What do you want?  Tell daddy what you want.”  If his son would start crying after his father denied him something, his father would sit down and explain to him why he wasn’t allowed to have what he wanted.  In short, despite his son’s age he spoke to his son as though the son understood what he was saying.  After a minute his son would calm down and move onto other things.  The only downside to this, if you would call it a downside, is that now his son has amazing cognitive and negotiation skills as an older boy; something the father wasn’t quite prepared for!

In short, there are three things listed above you can do to start teaching your child to talk early:

  • Encourage them to speak properly from early on.
  • Talk to them as though they understand you even if their vocabulary or comprehension doesn’t match yours.
  • Take the extra time to work with them now so you can enjoy the fruits of your labours later on.

Additionally, the side effects of doing these three simple things are:

  • Less tantrums (which makes for happier parents).
  • Your child or children will speak earlier and more confidently.
  • The ability to deny your child something in public with fewer upsets and “scenes.”

In summary, I have always believed that if a parent sets their child up for success early on by taking the extra time and initiative, they will enjoy the benefits of their actions later.  It is normal for children to cry in order to get what they want, but unfortunately this isn’t necessarily how the world works.  Think about it, if you cry to your boss about something it doesn’t guarantee that he or she will give it to you.  In fact, making a scene in his or her office may have the complete opposite effect!  If a parent trains their child in such a way that they are given anything they want whenever they cry, I feel that this action actually sets the child up for failure later on in life.  They may be more inclined to have high expectations and may also have major emotional whiplash when things don’t always go their way.  Additionally, they may also be less inclined to understand another person’s point of view when they are denied something they want which leaves less room for compassion, understanding and empathy.  Bruce J. McIntosh, M.D. states in the journal Pediatrics, indicates that spoiled children are prone to temper tantrums, can be insensitive to the needs of others, and have trouble deferring gratification.

This is where Little Human Scholars works with babies and toddlers enroled in their daycare centre in PJ to teach them how to talk early and communicate efficiently from a young age!

 

About Little Human Scholars School and Daycare Centre in PJ

Little Human Scholars is an all-in-one childcare solution.  It is a preschool, playschool, kindergarten, nursery and full day daycare centre (with extended hours) located in the heart of PJ.

 

In fact, the location is one of the things which makes Little Human Scholars so sought after – it is conveniently nestled near Jalan Gasing, University hospital, PJ Old town, PJ New town, Jaya One, Jaya33, and the PJ IT Mall.

 

The best part is LHS has premiere services many other schools in PJ don’t offer such as full day daycare with extended hours, CCTV access for parents, and a nifty little phone app called Toddlytic which provides parents with automatic updates on their child’s development, behaviour and health checks.

 

With full-time guards always present at each of their locations, access to CCTV (which is in every room except the office, bathroom and kitchen areas), and very strict pick-up and drop-off rules, Little Human Scholars treats every child who walks into it’s hallways as one of their own children!

 

This place has it all:  location, safety, health, IGSCE curriculum and play-based learning.  What more could you ask for?  Did I mention they also have transportation services and offer meal plans for students?  It doesn’t get any better than that.

 

If you are interested in a tour of one of our centres (that’s right, there’s more than one), all you need to do is fill out the form here or call +6017-7303-025 and a LHS administrative staff will get back with you shortly!

 

Cheers,

 

Jana Moreno

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